Unpopular opinion: I don’t need friends with the same values.

May 30, 2025

Hey you,

So there’s this trend floating around, termed;

Propaganda, I will not fall for.

And it got me thinking... what’s mine?

Well—here it is:

❌ The idea that you must only be friends with people who share your exact values.

Now now, before the alignment police come for me, let me explain.

I get it. Shared values are nice. Safe. Easy.

But I’ve been thinking: if all my friends are carbon copies of me… where’s the stretch? Where’s the growth?

Hear me out…

How will I ever understand different worlds, different experiences, different ways of moving through life?

Because real talk, sometimes, I think too much similarity coddles you.

You get used to being agreed with.

You start mistaking comfort for depth.

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And suddenly, you’re allergic to people who challenge your perspective. 😬

Me? I like a bit of seasoning.

A little spice don’t hurt you know…

I like friendships that feel like honest conversations, not curated Bs tbh.

I like people who make me pause and think, “Hmm... I wouldn’t do it that way, but I respect it.”

Now now…

CALM DOWN!

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This isn’t me saying, “Be besties with people who drain you.”
Please don’t.

Protect your peace.

All iI’m saying is…a little friction can be good for the soul.

That said... let me not act like this is a rule carved in stone.

This is just how I feel right now, in this version of myself.

Will future me agree?

Maybe…

Maybe not…

That’s the thing about being quirky; I reserve the right to change my mind.

Anyway…

What about you?
Are you team shared values only, or do you love a little contrast in your circle?
Reply and tell me. I’m curious. As always.

Quirky By NOJ